Mr. Kazuo, my manager, called me at his desk. He had a “gift” for me. This was very unusual in Japan.

But my reaction wasn't what Mr. Kazuo had expected. “How could you?” I started crying.

Here are seven concepts I took away from my time in Japan that can empower and humble you.

A complete stranger offered to hold space for a sex ritual supposed to heal my vaginismus.

Living in Japan had left me traumatized by sex and my body went into hibernation

A lot happens during a few minutes of uninterrupted eye contact.

Soon, John started to blink and tears streamed down his cheek, only five minutes into our exercise.

We are often quick to dismiss someone who doesn’t fit our preconceived ideas of it.

I recently experienced this firsthand when I moved to a new apartment with a man I met a month ago.

There is one experience that still haunts me to this day. I gave in to my anxious impulses and looked through my fiance’s phone to see who he was texting. Something I shouldn’t have done.

I naively thought I could meet a boyfriend through Tinder because it has worked for me in the past.

Kaitlin convinced me to use the dating app during the weekend trip to Guadalajara we had planned.

I’ve encountered many weird things during my time living in Japan but nothing was weirder than “Shibuya’s Vibe Bar Wild One.”

“Shibuya’s Vibe Bar Wild One” is actually a sex toy bar that lets you try over 350 sex toys before buying them.

At ‘Rent A Boyfriend’, you can hire a companion to spend time with, attend events, and even receive emotional support.

I naturally envisioned using the services of ‘Rent A Boyfriend’ during the nine years I lived in Japan. I was their ideal client afterall.

How did I land a job in a prestigious investment bank in Japan without a degree in finances? Read through and learn why you should never do what I've done.

Twenty other international students were there with us at the top of Mont Illalo, a ten thousand feet high volcano in Ecuador.

I had heard of tantric orgies and here I was, with a group of twenty strangers, definitely not ready for an orgy. 

Marion was a tall and beautiful French model who loved to test me by seducing my partners when we were together in college.

“Let’s see who can have the most sexual partners within a month, you or me. Are you ready?”

I have countless stories about Japan, but this one is the story that ‘damaged’ me the most. I made a pact that would change my life for the worse and the better. It was a drastic decision, but one that my body immediately accepted without arguing — a survival mechanism to overcome the frustration of sexless Japan.

When I don’t want to do anything else and hit the brakes, guys cry out: “My balls hurt so badly, help me.”

The truth is, a man’s blue balls are not my problem.

The end of a relationship can be awkward, but you can always rely on sex to make things better.

Why is there such a thing as breakup sex in the first place?

I’ve always been someone who’s leaned heavily on sugar.

If you’re trying to quit sugar or are just curious about how that is even possible, read on.

I decided to forgive my ex-employer. It's a process though, not a one-time event, and it comes with different layers of understanding.

So, what happens if you haven’t had sex for a long time? Is that bad? Studies say YES for the many reasons I will share below. But I have another opinion.

A lot of things we read about the law of attraction won’t work because they are missing ONE thing that ancient sacred texts (the Tantras, the Yoga Sutras and the Kabbalah) understood.

There are a lot of articles out there on how to get wet for sex. But nobody talks about if a vagina can be “too” wet for sex. Sadly, a vagina can be “too” wet for sex. Read to find out what a woman can do to regulate her pussy’s wetness.